Listen.... I'm never too old to learn. I've always thought of myself as a good friend - patient, helpful, loyal, fun loving, quick witted. What I didn't realize - or at least didn't take seriously enough, was that to be a good friend - the most important thing you can do is LISTEN. Give your girlfriend the gift of hearing her fears, her voice, her anger, her joys. She is perfectly equipped to make her own choices. You don't have to "fix her". Just be her friend.